In 2006, at the age of 19, I found myself in a physically and emotionally abusive relationship with a man whom I had thought cared for me. For three years, I lived in fear, pain, and isolation from the world. When I was finally able to get out, I discovered it wasn’t the end of my journey. In fact, it turned out to only be the catalyst for what was to come.
I spent the better part of the next decade firstly falling deeper and deeper into a hole, before finding help, a purpose, and myself. Now, at 31, I have discovered just how resilient the human mind and body can be. I’ve built an award-winning business and a social following to go with it, found forgiveness and love for myself, discovered and developed a truly loving relationship with my now husband, made in-roads into my campaign against domestic violence, and as I write this, am awaiting the birth of our first child, a daughter.
I’ve experienced a lot in a relatively short period of life. But it has given me not only a number of tools with which to approach life, it has also helped me to appreciate just what being human is, and that it IS okay to be human. I wouldn’t be where I am today if not for the hardships I faced both in that abusive relationship and during the long and troubling healing process afterwards. Now the realisation that I will soon have a young female soul in my care, has helped me to see just why what I have been through is important. Because I have the tools to help her, and anyone else who needs a helping hand, to be just who she is, and to love herself all the more because of it. And so, I write this open letter to my darling daughter, as I wait for her to join us earth-side. But, this letter is for you too, because girl, it is okay.Read More